tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819632789916727494.post7617841837644021137..comments2022-11-10T05:09:12.715-08:00Comments on Where the Child Things Are: Does the Military Make you Murder?Amandahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05905610525068225321noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819632789916727494.post-53190862471088936302011-02-09T08:26:31.717-08:002011-02-09T08:26:31.717-08:00I dropped by after seeing your response to a homes...I dropped by after seeing your response to a homeschooling motto on the Teaching Responsibility thread, homeschooling page at ThePioneerWoman.com. Love the motto, too. “Train them [your children] as if they won’t have YOU tomorrow. Love them as if you won’t have THEM tomorrow.” <br />What happened was a horrible tragedy. Unfortunately, it is not unique to the military family. All over the world there are disturbed people who happen to be parents. That there is even one is too many. What I’m trying to say is the military life did make her do this. I am a (female) veteran myself and although I did not have a family while on active duty, I have one now in civilian life and there are major differences.<br />I realize deployment adds another dimension but one thing I’d like to point out, at least military wives have each other to lean on and give support to. As a single mom in the private sector, I do not. Unless I go around talking about it, which I don’t, folks don’t realize I’m a single mom. I have my immediate family and my church congregation to lean on (I’m lucky to have them) but there is no nationwide/worldwide network of moms with similar experiences to connect to. Many times I feel like I’m alone in the wilderness, forging ahead with no real relief and no one understands what my life is like. Certainly none of the men at my workplace do. I dare not miss much time for they will shake their heads and say “See what happens when you hire a woman, especially a single woman with kids?” Even though they don’t say that out loud because they’re not allowed to, they are thinking it. I’ve been in a man’s field all my working life and I know.<br />I was a stay at home mom for 8 years and it was THE hardest job I’ve ever had. I applaud you for homeschooling your children. As the only source of income for my family, I cannot. My sons have grown into fine young men (15 & 17 yr old) in spite of having a mom who works away from home. Most of the credit goes to a strong church upbringing. I will take some credit, too and give some to my sons themselves. I am very blessed in many ways. <br />I feel just terrible for that father and hope he can get through this with his sanity intact.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4819632789916727494.post-89866256194512095602011-02-03T05:36:45.333-08:002011-02-03T05:36:45.333-08:00I just dropped by after seeing your blog listed on...I just dropped by after seeing your blog listed on Milblogs. You have a great blog going. The story you mentioned is quite tragic, but not the norm. I have always been amazed at military wives and their strength and support of each other. I am not military, but know a few families. I was a homeschooling mom, and now my grandchildren are being homeschooled. So, I know the struggles there. You go, girl!Bag Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01885412195900280096noreply@blogger.com